Tiffany's intro
Okay, looks like my pen name is Tiffany.
I admit upfront that I tried online dating several years ago. I did meet some interesting people, was shocked a few times, and learned a few lessons, nothing special but it was fun. I'm not looking for marriage (that is a relationship decision, not a life goal) but my sister did meet her husband online. So I decided to give it another shot and talked Amber into joining me.
A female friend had advised us to not limit ourselves to guys who were traditionally "our type." So, in the name of personal growth and open mindedness, Amber and I were intent on broadening our horizons to include men who were maybe a little older, a little chubbier, a little less educated, a little more balding, a little less attractive. How niave!
Profile posted . . . current photos posted . . . let the fun begin!
Right off I received several winks . . . from senior citizens. What? I checked my profile to make sure I hadn't accidentally posted my mother's photo. Nope, it was me, still in my 40s.
Reality shock #1. It turns out that most guys in their 40s seem to want women in their 20s and 30s; men looking for a 40-something female are in their late 50s and 60s - whether or not they have something special to offer to compensate for the age gap.
So I tried to read with an open mind an email from a man who claimed to be a doctor and was at least 10 years older. His appearance was neat but not attractive. Keep an open mind! I politely replied and he immediately wanted to meet. After a brief exchange of emails lacking substance, I had decided we weren't a match. I wasn't going to give my number to a man who wouldn't reveal more about himself online.
Amber called with news of a guy who had just winked at her. When she read his email it became obvious: he was a cut-and-paste, unoriginal kinda guy using a shotgun approach to fish among all the new profiles. His words to her were the same words he had written to me. Amber replied to him: "thank you but I'll bet you say that to all the girls."
As my sister said when she was single, "Next!"
I admit upfront that I tried online dating several years ago. I did meet some interesting people, was shocked a few times, and learned a few lessons, nothing special but it was fun. I'm not looking for marriage (that is a relationship decision, not a life goal) but my sister did meet her husband online. So I decided to give it another shot and talked Amber into joining me.
A female friend had advised us to not limit ourselves to guys who were traditionally "our type." So, in the name of personal growth and open mindedness, Amber and I were intent on broadening our horizons to include men who were maybe a little older, a little chubbier, a little less educated, a little more balding, a little less attractive. How niave!
Profile posted . . . current photos posted . . . let the fun begin!
Right off I received several winks . . . from senior citizens. What? I checked my profile to make sure I hadn't accidentally posted my mother's photo. Nope, it was me, still in my 40s.
Reality shock #1. It turns out that most guys in their 40s seem to want women in their 20s and 30s; men looking for a 40-something female are in their late 50s and 60s - whether or not they have something special to offer to compensate for the age gap.
So I tried to read with an open mind an email from a man who claimed to be a doctor and was at least 10 years older. His appearance was neat but not attractive. Keep an open mind! I politely replied and he immediately wanted to meet. After a brief exchange of emails lacking substance, I had decided we weren't a match. I wasn't going to give my number to a man who wouldn't reveal more about himself online.
Amber called with news of a guy who had just winked at her. When she read his email it became obvious: he was a cut-and-paste, unoriginal kinda guy using a shotgun approach to fish among all the new profiles. His words to her were the same words he had written to me. Amber replied to him: "thank you but I'll bet you say that to all the girls."
As my sister said when she was single, "Next!"
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